Episode #221: Discovering Pleasure within the Little Issues

Who doesn’t wish to deliver extra pleasure of their lives? This week, we’re speaking about all of the little issues in life that deliver us a lot pleasure. Plus, we’re doing our guide report on The Lifeless Romantics by Ashley Poston.

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Present Notes:

Nova’s Woman Scout Cookies

Issues we discover pleasure in:

Elsie

Audiobooks

Walks

Collections: Antiques and artwork

Motion pictures

Emma

Studying

Desserts

Walks

Little Luxuries: getting lashes refilled, portray nails, and shopping for a brand new face cream

Adjusting your expectations so you possibly can really love one thing

Charge The Lifeless Romantics by Ashley Poston between 1-5 ghost emojis

Elsie – 4.5

Emma – 4.5

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Episode 221 Transcript:

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Elsie:  You’re listening to the attractive mess podcast, your cozy consolation pay attention,. Who doesn’t need somewhat bit extra pleasure of their lives? This week we’re speaking concerning the little issues in our life that deliver us a lot pleasure. Plus, we’re doing a guide report on The Lifeless Romantics by Ashley Poston. Okay, so ought to we begin off with the guide report or with the issues that deliver us pleasure?

Emma:  Oh, let’s do issues that deliver us pleasure.

Elsie:  Okay. Let’s do it. I’m, like, so scared that we put all the identical issues. What number of did you place up? I put 5.

Emma:  I put 5. 

Elsie:  Nice. Okay, we’ll shuttle. 

Emma:  Now I’m very curious to see in the event that they’re all the identical issues. Truthfully, I might adore it. In the event that they’re all 5 the identical. That’d be loopy in a method.

Elsie:  They’re gonna be. Apart from one or two. Give me your first one. Okay.

Emma:  My first one is studying. Is that in your listing too? Is that in your bingo card?

Elsie:  Yeah, duh it’s. Okay. Go forward.

Emma:  Shock, shock. We love studying. I feel I talked about this somewhat bit within the final episode. However studying to me is simply such a contented place in life. I like having a guide that I’m like, wanting ahead to selecting it again up. I’m like speeding via, , folding laundry or no matter silly activity I’ve in order that I can get again to my guide. I do take heed to audiobooks. I do know you’re going to speak about audiobooks, however I are usually extra of a guide reader. And I’m contemplating getting an e-reader once more. I had one prior to now. I had a Kindle and it simply wasn’t actually my factor. I like having the pages to show. 

Elsie:  Why are you contemplating it then? 

Emma:  So I’m contemplating it, in order our listeners know, I’m pregnant. I’m going to have a child this summer time. My due dates late June. And I’m already planning like what books to love, have in that period, I’m going to do a variety of horny fairy books that creator I consider it’s Sara Mase wish to say. So I’m wanting ahead to a maternity depart. And I like infants. And I like breastfeeding. I like breastfeeding my son. Additionally, it’s a tough time I’m a sleeper. I wish to sleep seven to eight hours an evening. And also you positively don’t get to sleep that a lot when you could have a new child. And it’s onerous. It’s, , a troublesome time the place you’re attempting to maintain your perspective up. However you’re like, man, I want I may sleep extra.  So I’m like planning a guide that I can not less than be wanting ahead to studying whereas I’m breastfeeding at night time or no matter I’m doing, , getting up with the child. And generally you’re not studying however there are lengthy stretches the place they’re simply consuming and also you’re feeding them with a bottle or your boob or no matter. And also you’re simply sitting there. So having one thing to sit up for studying at 4am. Yeah, is type of a excessive bar. So I’m actually simply wanting like, what I might think about considerably junk meals reads, and the horny fairy books actually do it for me as a result of they’re for me, extremely addictive. And this isn’t me dissing them by the way in which. That is me saying how fantastic I like them as a result of they’re what I’m saving for my maternity depart. 

Elsie:  Did you end the primary sequence? 

Emma:  No, I haven’t completed it as a result of I don’t wish to be a reader who like speeds via all one creator. I wish to type of tempo them out. Particularly if I discover like a trilogy that I’m actually into. I actually like type of spacing it out as a result of then I’m like, wanting ahead to it. However I feel I’m going to hurry via a variety of them throughout the maternity leaves. In order that’s why I’m contemplating an e-reader too, since you do a variety of issues one handed when you could have a child since you’re holding the child quite a bit. So that you eat your meals one handed, you study to do a variety of issues one handed, and holding massive books one handed is basically onerous, such as you drop them quite a bit. So I’m like perhaps I ought to simply get an e-reader although I type of have this sense that I gained’t wish to maintain it after that section of life. Like I’ll most likely wish to return to books as a result of I similar to having them on my shelf. I like turning the pages. I similar to it. And , only for enjoyable, readings for enjoyable. So I’m like, why not do the factor I like so I nearly like wish to similar to borrow somebody’s e-reader for six months. 

Elsie:  Give it to me while you’re performed as a result of I would like one for the children. 

Emma:  Okay, perhaps I’ll do this then as a result of I don’t wish to purchase one and solely use it for six months. It makes me really feel so wasteful. However I additionally was like, are you able to lease an e-reader? I don’t suppose so. So anyway, that is my dumb factor. However I like studying a lot. So I’m like planning what I’m going to learn throughout this barely onerous season.

Elsie:  I feel that’s actually sensible to present your self treats. 

Emma:  Yeah, and to me studying is certainly a deal with. And I like all kinds of various genres. However there are some that really feel extra addictive to me than others. I positively learn a variety of romance, not simply fantasy romance. I like historic romance. I like Trendy Romance. To me that’s like a really like enjoyable learn. Like if I’m somewhat bit unhappy or it’s wintertime. I’m like, give me that romance. Yeah, I like all kinds of issues. I like thrillers, clearly.  I additionally like nonfiction. I’m fairly eclectic in my studying. And I additionally like that you just and I are usually barely completely different on our fiction reads.

Elsie:  You all the time say that.

Emma:  You want somewhat extra basic fiction than I do. I’m somewhat extra style than you’re as a result of  you’re not towards fantasy but it surely’s not like an enormous factor for you essentially and I’m like dragons signal me up.

Elsie:  I’m obsessive about fantasy however I’m like onerous to please. I’m like simply disillusioned by it which isn’t good. 

Emma:  And you want extra moody issues, somewhat bit extra creative.

Elsie:  That’s true I wish to cry. 

Emma:  You wish to cry. I don’t wish to cry very a lot. I wish to be somewhat bit spooked. Such as you scare me, I like that. However I don’t actually wish to cry an excessive amount of. I additionally do cry although, throughout romance quite a bit, which may be very humorous, however I do. So I feel I’m a straightforward cry. And so I’m like, I don’t need this unhappy. I don’t wish to cry as a result of I’m unhappy. I wish to cry as a result of like they lastly received collectively, or , one thing completely satisfied. I like a contented cry, I assume. Anyway, studying is certainly a kind of little joys in life. And I additionally discover a variety of pleasure being in locations which have plenty of books. So bookstores, libraries, and I like to purchase books and take a look at books, however I additionally similar to the sensation of being round a variety of books. I feel it’s a really peaceable factor. And I feel a part of it’s rising up while you go to public faculties, actually any establishment kind factor like that, it could possibly be a boarding college, or no matter, I went to public faculties. There’s a variety of occasions the place you’re like, in case you’re the kind of one who’s somewhat bit introverted, and likes to be alone, and likes like low audio environments, there’s generally you don’t get a alternative, proper? Such as you’re simply within the cafeteria, and it’s loud, or like, sure lecturers would love play music throughout check as a result of it does assist different college students. However for me, it all the time type of bothered me. So for me, being within the library was like, a very nice place to be. Even when I wasn’t there to take a look at a guide. I simply wished to be in there.

Elsie:  Emma has all the time been this manner. Once we had our retailer, she like hated it that I performed music and it’s like, you type of must.

Emma:  I don’t hate music however I similar to a variety of peace and quiet. I’m a really like in search of peace continually particular person. 

Elsie:  You must get a kind of little grandma water fountains. 

Emma:  I used to have one, like in center college in my room, the little waterphone. Yeah. Anyway, yeah. So studying. studying is certainly somewhat pleasure for me.

Elsie:  I adore it. Okay, I’ll do audiobooks since we’re on the topic already. So I like studying paper books. However audio books are like very sensible for me on this time of life. I’ll inform you all of the occasions I learn them as a result of folks all the time ask me like, how do you learn so many books? And I learn them once I’m driving. Once I’m ready for child, , properly, that may choose ready, ready, ready. Anytime I’m cleansing. And anytime I’m doing any type of work apart from writing. I can’t clearly, do it once I’m writing. Yeah, however another like once I’m doing pictures or another work? I can deal with the audiobook. So yeah, that’s just about all day every single day. And even generally at night time earlier than mattress. I listened to them. Prefer it’s similar to, I adore it. So yeah, I feel that the cool factor about audiobooks is you possibly can learn actually, actually quick. Even when you’ve got a busy life. That’s like energetic, , taking walks anyway, all of it. Oh, yeah, portray, all of the issues just about all the things apart from writing or I’m taking part in with my youngsters. My youngsters like hate my books. They usually don’t prefer it once I even have my headphones in. And in order that’s like somewhat little bit of an issue. So I both have to cover it from them but it surely’s okay you shouldn’t take heed to them 24 hours a day. However yeah, I like the artwork of audiobooks. Looks like a variety of the individuals who learn audiobooks are actors. It’s like usually they’re like a display screen actor, a Broadway actor. It’s similar to all types of cool folks. Anyway, I do wish to learn a wide selection of books, like what Emma was saying, perhaps like somewhat bit extra literary fiction, however just about all the identical stuff. I don’t wish to learn a variety of romance books in a row. Suppose I wish to learn one each infrequently, like one a month and identical with nonfiction. I don’t wish to learn nonfiction books in a row as a result of , there it might probably all mix collectively. It already type of does. Prefer it’s onerous to recall while you consider like a self assist idea, which guide it got here from while you learn, , like a bunch of them.

Emma:  Yeah, generally like a biography or an autobiography too, which is a special type of nonfiction. However I really feel like I get into kicks the place I’m, like, type of into studying like Audrey Hepburn’s biography, or , no matter. I similar to get into these little boats for awhile.

Elsie:  Yeah, no, I like that, movie star memoirs. So movie star memoirs, there’s solely normally like a number of, like, wonderful ones annually, however there’s all the time not less than one or two wonderful ones each single 12 months. In order that’s enjoyable. However yeah, anyway, love audiobooks. It’s positively nonetheless counts as studying. It is sort of a approach to if you wish to similar to get into studying with a low barrier of entry. Such as you don’t have to sit down. For me if I needed to sit and browse a guide each time I wouldn’t be capable to learn very a lot as a result of I’m not touring very a lot in my life proper now. And similar to sitting down studying a guide, is it all the time interesting to me. However yeah, like listening to 1 it’s prefer it’s tremendous interesting. 

Emma:  Sitting down and studying is an entire completely different, you want using your fingers greater than probably except you could have some type of gadget. So it’s simply completely different. Whereas you might be doing issues whilst you’re listening to an audio guide. So that you might be folding laundry, doing dishes, no matter.

Elsie:  And I felt like my youngsters are already due to the Yoto gamers. They’re already like, they’ve an appreciation for just like the expertise within the manufacturing of an audiobook as a result of I began to learn Harry Potter to them. They usually, Emma is aware of the story, they had been like, Mama, you’re not doing sufficient voices. Like Mama, you’re studying so boring. And I assumed I used to be doing an excellent job. I used to be attempting.

Emma:  She received booed off the stage. 

Elsie:  After which we began studying the Jim Dale manufacturing that like, , and it’s an entire factor. They usually had been like, immediately, sure, instantly sure. So I simply sit there with the guide in my heads with my cellphone out. And we take heed to it collectively. And it’s form of like studying, but it surely’s form of, I assume it’s simpler, and so they’re having fun with it extra. It’s extra entertaining for them. However yeah, it’s positively like a expertise that individuals have. 

Emma:  Children might be brutally sincere. No, I’m not interested by you doing it. Okay. Wow. That’s humorous.

Elsie:  Okay, what’s your subsequent?

Emma:  My subsequent one is desserts. 

Elsie:  Oh okay. Say all the things.

Emma:  Okay, so let me begin with this. You understand, we love a disclaimer, I don’t have something to say about well being, weight, none of that. I’m not interested by speaking about that proper now. I feel that meals can get so wrapped up in that, and I get that and it’s an necessary dialog. That isn’t what I’m speaking about proper now. 

Elsie:  Yeah. Or like ever on this podcast. 

Emma:  Yeah, I’ve. I’ve nothing good to say don’t take heed to me on any of that. I don’t know I’m studying too, anyway. So let me begin by saying one factor that our nice grandma Lula, who lived to be like 102 or 103, she was mainly within the blue zone. She figured it out. My mother mentioned that piece of recommendation. Nice Grandma Lula had was she was like, I’m all the time wanting ahead to my subsequent meal. And that was like one in all her secrets and techniques to love an extended, completely satisfied life was to all the time be wanting ahead to your subsequent meal. I feel that recommendation is like, so easy and so good. And as somebody who loves consuming, I do know, some folks don’t care about consuming, that’s completely cool. However I like consuming. I additionally love cooking. And I simply have sure meals I like that I get enthusiastic about that I take into consideration and for me, like, at any time when I received my massive tattoos your complete time, I used to be desirous about what I used to be going to eat later. As a result of it’s like my approach to like, get via one thing troublesome. I can assure this summer time once I ship our son, I might be desirous about what I can eat later or the following day, as a result of it’s only a approach to get via what might be type of a troublesome second for me. So I utterly perceive my nice grandmother Lula being like, a secret to a contented life is is considering your subsequent meal and searching ahead to your subsequent meal. So for me, I’m usually desirous about like, desserts or little treats that I wish to have later. And naturally, I don’t do that each single day. I don’t have time to do it each single day. However I’ve a variety of like little issues which are like my little treats and issues round city or the opposite day I received like actually fixated on getting a bagel from Panera, however then they had been all out of the blueberry and that was an enormous downside for me. As a result of I used to be simply actually on the lookout for and a variety of occasions they’re actually easy factor solely. 

Elsie:  I solely get the cinnamon one. 

Emma:  Too crunchy for me. Yeah, generally I’m within the temper for the cheese one, however not some this time I actually was wanting the blueberry with some cream cheese frosting or not frosting simply cream cheese. I imply, it’s mainly frosting. However yeah, and yeah, I’m an enormous fan of I’ve talked about this earlier than, however I like Andy’s Frozen Custard which is type of a regional factor but it surely’s positively a Springfield factor.

Elsie:  My youngsters name it lovely, attractive spinning ice cream cone.

Emma:  Oscar all the time notices the ice cream cone too and yeah, desserts and simply little treats is a factor for me that I’ll plan and I like wanting ahead to it. Like if I do know that my husband and I are going to go on a date to love a sure restaurant, particularly if we’re touring. I’m one of many those that I’ll generally search for the menu forward of time as a result of it’s not that I’m essentially nervous or one thing I similar to wanting ahead. I like including that to the expertise of consuming of like I’m wanting ahead to having my favourite pasta on Friday for my birthday or no matter and I’m desirous about it for like two weeks and it’s not like I’m not consuming different meals within the meantime that I’m having fun with I’m however I similar to the anticipation. 

Elsie:  That’s fantastic. I like that.

Emma:  So so far as little joys that does it for me. And I additionally love generally having time to prepare dinner one thing enjoyable. Like for my birthday, one of many nights, Oscar stayed the night time along with her mother, he had a grandma night time. And the following morning, I didn’t have Oscar time, as a result of he was over at grandma’s and I baked my very own birthday cake. Mother was like, you don’t must bake your personal birthday cake. Inform me what cake you need. I’ll bake it, , our mother’s actually candy like that. And he or she’s an amazing baker. However I used to be like, Mother, really, I’d wish to bake it as a result of Oscar gained’t be house. He likes to assist in the kitchen. And that’s actually candy. However that’s an entire completely different factor than once I get to sit down and prepare dinner on my own and simply type of listened to my very own podcast that I wish to take heed to, or no matter, and make one thing that I’m enthusiastic about. Check out a brand new recipe that I haven’t tried earlier than or no matter. And I additionally favored the method of creating meals generally desirous about consuming it, which this was a chocolate cake, and I used to be wanting ahead to consuming it.

Elsie:  Oh, that was cute. I like that. It’s an ideal little pleasure in life.

Emma:  I feel so. 

Elsie:  My subsequent one is walks. Did you place walks? 

Emma:  Sure. 

Elsie:  Yeah, I guess you probably did. Okay, so the factor I like about walks is clearly prefer it’s good getting recent air. It’s good getting train. You possibly can take heed to your audiobook. Yeah, get somewhat daylight. However the factor I actually like is taking a look at everybody’s homes. I similar to to love look intimately. Particularly while you’re planning renovations, like final summer time, I keep in mind I used to be like strolling your complete neighborhood taking a look at what shade everybody’s porch was, as a result of it’s like not a factor you discover till you want have to do your personal porch. And there’s so many little issues like that like taking a look at all of the picket fences once we had been getting a picket fence and like, , so, yeah, walks is like one of many best issues in my life and doubtless like, the most important improve. Once we moved from our McMansion in Tennessee to right here, there was type of lots of people that had been like, oh, your own home is like not as easy mansion is good. Which is prefer it’s not as mansiony, however just like the distinction between a stroll the place all you get to take a look at is different McMansions and a stroll the place you get to take a look at like 100 historic houses, to me is prefer it’s not a con. It’s not even a contest like you possibly can’t substitute that. 

Emma:  I walked in your outdated neighborhood and I’ve walked in your present neighborhood and by far your present neighborhood is a a lot better stroll.

Elsie:  Yeah, it’s magical. And I favored my McMansion too. So, no disgrace in the direction of the McMansion life. It had its good issues for positive. However yeah, just like the walks. So yeah, I like like, , simply I don’t know the bizarre stuff just like the mailboxes, seeing what flowers folks plant of their yard, similar to all of the little issues. After which sure, our neighborhood is an excessive Halloween neighborhood, which iskinda like 90% of my id.

Emma:  Shout out to everybody who does vacation decor on the skin of their home in order that us who’re on the market strolling can get pleasure from it, as a result of it’s fantastic. And I adore it. And if in case you don’t even embellish the within, and also you’re simply type of do within the outdoors in your neighbors. Thanks. I see you and I adore it. It makes me so completely satisfied. 

Elsie:  I agree. Yeah, adore it.

Emma:  Yeah, walks was on my listing to like strolling outdoors. And I additionally suppose we talked about this in a earlier episode, however I like occurring a stroll with pals someday. I feel it’s a good time to catch up as a result of it’s like you may get your daylight and your steps and you’re perhaps already going to go. And now you possibly can chat with a pal somewhat bit about what they’ve been as much as what life’s like for them. And generally that strains up with different folks’s schedules. Generally it doesn’t. It simply relies upon, but it surely’s good.

Elsie:  Okay, what’s your subsequent one?

Emma:  Okay, subsequent one is I’m gonna name it little luxuries. 

Elsie:  It sounds good. I don’t know what it means. 

Emma:  Nicely, for me, my greatest one might be getting my lashes performed. As soon as a month, I get my lashes refilled. I’m an lash extension gal. And I adore it. And I feel once I was first getting it performed years in the past, I might all the time shuttle about it like oh, ought to I actually spend cash on this? Am I simply being useless? Am I , having this appointment once I ought to be working? And , particularly as soon as I had my son I’m like, , I might get my appointment throughout daycare hours as a result of I can’t take him he could be so bored. He would destroy her room whereas we’re there, ? And yeah, and I’m like my son’s in daycare so I can get my lashes performed. Am I a horrible mom? Like generally this stuff undergo your thoughts and I feel I’ve actually settled on. No, that is nice. That is one in all my little joys and I adore it. I like getting my lashes performed. One in all my favourite options is my eyes. I’ve these blue eyes. My son has actually blue eyes too. I feel he might need received it from me. And I like them. So I really feel like my lashes type of showcase my eyes. extra. And I truthfully simply love laying down and shutting my eyes for an hour to an hour and a half and anyone else takes care of one thing for me. Yeah, it’s good. It’s such a luxurious. My lash gal is superior. Her title is Brittany. We chat quite a bit. However she additionally doesn’t care if you wish to like pop in an audio guide or no matter. She’s like do your factor and I adore it. So it’s issues like that. I additionally like to color my nails. I’m extra of a paint my nails at house particular person, simply because I have already got my lash appointment, I assume. However simply little luxuries like that. Shopping for a brand new face cream, simply letting your self purchase little issues which are simply what I might name little luxuries. Like simply one thing enjoyable that makes you are feeling good. And for me, a variety of them are usually type of beauty. Nevertheless it’s truthfully not even actually a useless factor I don’t even suppose my husband cares more often than not. It’s similar to stuff I like I’m similar to, I’m into this. So right here we go. 

Elsie:  I positively take part in that too. Although it’s not on right here. I feel that life ought to be somewhat luxurious on a regular basis. Just a little spa night time each night time. I adore it. No, I adore it. Skincare all of it. Fantastic. Okay, my subsequent one is collections. So amassing issues is one thing that brings me a variety of pleasure. My primary collections proper now are antiques and artwork. So I’m type of simply engaged on my home proper now, I used to be desirous about amassing poison rings too. Once we had been on our little journey I used to be discovering these little rings from the Victorian period the place you would like conceal your poison. It’s mainly like a locket ring is what it seems like. And there’s like 1000s of them on Etsy. And I don’t know, I assumed it was like, fairly magical. So I like stuff like that like bizarre stuff. And normally when it’s an vintage, I don’t purchase only one. I wish to have like a set of them. You understand, like I wish to go deep into every of that vintage collections. Anyway, so far as artwork, I principally gather classic artwork or vintage artwork. As a result of I’m principally into outdated work and our entire downstairs, it’s principally classic. However I’ll say if you wish to rob me undergo the entire home and simply take the up to date artwork, in case you simply need the cash, as a result of I feel it’s , it’s smaller, it’s price extra. It’s it’s simpler to hold in case you’re a robber. And yeah, I don’t know, vintage artwork you possibly can like you will discover it from a thrift retailer too. It’s such as you by no means actually know which of them are the costly ones you’ll by no means be capable to inform.

Emma:  Now I’m simply desirous about what I might steal if I broke into your own home. 

Elsie:  Positively take the up to date artwork.

Emma:  I’m gonna want a truck. 

Elsie:  It’s humorous. I don’t actually have something to steal, I assume. However don’t take my platinum document. You is aware of the Platinum, it’s my all the things.

Emma:  It’s cool man. Jeremy is cool for having one.

Elsie:  Keep away from that. I have to anchor it to the wall. 

Emma:  Yeah. May have an alarm. 

Elsie:  I have to put House Alone traps round it.

Emma:  You get shot with a Nerf gun. 

Elsie:  Okay, you want I check with it as my platinum document. 

Emma:  I observed that.

Elsie:  So amassing artwork amassing antiques amassing, similar to I don’t know, I would like my entire home to be like Knives Out the place the start of Knives Out when, you undergo the entire home. And also you’re like, there’s a narrative behind each nook of this house. That’s how I would like it to really feel. And clearly that takes years. And like tons and plenty of layers. So I’m dedicated to that imaginative and prescient. And I’m similar to, little extra each month, somewhat extra yearly. 

Emma:  I feel too. It actually jogs my memory of each our grandmother’s however particularly our grandmother Carina. She simply had plenty of bizarre issues in our home bizarre items of artwork and collectible figurines and issues from journeys she’d been on and she or he had very eclectic style. And we performed with all that stuff once we had been youngsters. And I simply have actually vivid recollections of a few of that stuff in our home. And our different grandma, the one who’s in pink home now, Norma, she additionally has collections of issues, plenty of porcelain collectible figurines very completely different vibe. She had a really, very completely different type than Carina.

Elsie:  She has a very good like, gentle up Christmas Home.

Emma:  The Christmas home village. Yeah. And when Oscar and I might go over there across the Christmas season, he was instantly obsessed. I really feel prefer it’s like a child magnet. Sure collections like that, like at Christmas Village or no matter. 

Elsie:  My youngsters love going to her home. 

Emma:  Yeah. So I really feel prefer it offers like one thing, it’s only a enjoyable factor. And I imply, youngsters are extra upfront about it. However like adults wish to see the collections in your own home too. Like I like taking a look at somebody’s bookshelf and seeing all their like little brass collectible figurines or no matter it’s that they gather seeing somebody’s artwork of their home. I really feel such as you realized a lot about somebody while you see like all of the artwork they’ve collected of their home. It’s so enjoyable. So yeah, I like that about you that you just’re all the time amassing. 

Elsie:  It’s positively somewhat pleasure as a result of it’s Like, you possibly can add somewhat factor. And it’s not essentially costly. And it’s similar to and I’m all the time like having one thing to seek for, or like search for or just like the, , listing for the flea markets and issues like that. Okay, what’s your subsequent one?

Emma:  Okay. That is my final one. This episode is about pleasure and little issues. And I don’t know if this actually be somewhat factor. So perhaps I cheated. However I similar to, as I used to be desirous about this episode, and like making my listing, I simply felt like this form of match on there. So I’m simply going for it. So we had been speaking about this on our journey, really, it’s mainly, if I needed to sum it up, it’s like adjusting your expectations, with the intention to really love one thing. And for me, I’ve actually been on this little journey the previous couple of months, like three, 4 months with it about parenting, as a result of I feel that, like all people does this with completely different arenas. So let me choose a special factor. So like, a variety of occasions, folks suppose as quickly as I get my dream job, I’ll be completely satisfied, fortunately ever after. As quickly as I get married, I’ll be completely satisfied, fortunately ever after. And for me, I feel I did type of have this like, as quickly as I’m a mother, as quickly as I’m a guardian, fortunately ever after as a result of that’s the factor I really need and I used to be actually eager for. And now that I’m in it, , my son’s two and a half, after which I’m anticipating one other child. I do love being a guardian. Nevertheless it was not the fortunately ever after that I like, put the stress for it to be. And never as a result of there’s something about it that I’m disillusioned with. It’s truthfully very a lot what I used to be anticipating. And my son’s superior and so enjoyable. I feel I simply didn’t have the precise expectations. And so I observed that I used to be getting like somewhat bit extra annoyed with it. Like if we went and did one thing on the weekend. And it turned out he had a match on the finish of it or one thing as a result of shock he’s a toddler. And I might be like so disillusioned. And I used to be similar to noticing that these little moments inside me probably not something that I used to be expressing the place I simply felt like, type of deflated about it. And I used to be like, oh, I feel I used to be simply placing an excessive amount of on this. I feel I used to be anticipating an excessive amount of from it. And if I simply change that in me, then I’d simply love this extra, as a result of it’s not a fortunately ever after. It’s onerous work. And it’s fantastic. And it’s type of all the things all of sudden. You understand, I don’t really feel like I did that a lot with careers or with getting married. However I feel I did with parenting and all people’s completely different with what they do it with. Possibly some folks don’t do it in any respect. However similar to switching that in my mind, which I’ve been engaged on now for a number of months. Like I mentioned, I’ve been type of like processing it in my very own thoughts speaking about it with shut pals. Now I’m speaking about on a podcast, I can actually inform that I’m type of like having much more enjoyable with parenting as a result of I simply have the precise expectations for it now the place I’m not anticipating it to satisfy me in all these actually massive methods. I’m similar to, loving it for what it’s. And I feel it’s type of a small change, but it surely feels type of larger, but it surely actually wasn’t. It didn’t take like a variety of work or a variety of deep remedy or actually something like that. It simply took me realizing that I had the unsuitable expectations round this factor. And if I simply took the stress off of that, then I may simply get pleasure from it for what it’s extra and yeah, so in that method I simply really feel much more joyful and light-weight about it. And it’s not prefer it’s solved something or it modified it essentially, however I’m simply having much more pleasure with it.

Elsie:  That’s good. I like that. Yeah, that that makes excellent sense. It’s positively a marathon. And it’s stuffed with just like the highs and lows might be fairly intense, is sensible. It’s not like the films,

Emma:  It’s not like motion pictures. Nothing ever is.

Elsie:  Okay, talking of my final one is motion pictures. Oh, so I like motion pictures. I like motion pictures greater than nearly something. It’s most likely probably the most factor that I like on this world that I’m not attempting to do with my profession. Like I all the time like gather issues if I adore it I attempt to like do it somewhat bit however motion pictures I like I’m undeserving.  I similar to I’m a fan. I simply suppose that it’s so wonderful. I imply I like novels too. Nevertheless it’s like motion pictures are so fantastical what I imply? Simply the issues that individuals undergo to make them occur I feel is such like a marvel. Yeah, I’m simply obsessive about it. So anyway, any type of film, I feel I’ve like a fairly good selection like of various motion pictures that I like however let me suppose what’s my most favourite? I feel my most favourite are I feel it’s simply the those like we do on the podcast just like the actually cozy set designs. The place like they’re actually actually detailed. Yeah, the fixation I’ve on just like the House Alone home or the Knives Out home or The Sensible Magic home, that’s actual. There’s similar to nothing on this world that’s extra like, even just like the set of The Workplace, , which is like, it’s not essentially lovely, but it surely’s like, I’m obsessive about it. So I don’t know. I simply suppose that motion pictures, I like love. I like actors. I like movie star trivia. It’s like one in all my hobbies. And I like like, understanding if, , like, if a film got here from a guide, or if, like, if it was simply constituted of like, I don’t know, it’s so attention-grabbing. 

Emma:  Yeah, no, I agree. Truthfully, I feel if I’d analyzed it extra once I was 18, I feel desirous to be an actor was largely similar to, loving motion pictures, and storytelling usually. 

Elsie:  Yeah. Like, I generally am jealous, likeEmma moved to LA, to attempt to do performing. And I, like generally take into consideration, like, what if I went along with her and simply tried to do one thing with motion pictures? Like, I feel there’s all the time going to be part of me, that’s like, I’m obsessive about them a lot that I simply wish to like, be some a part of it. So perhaps sometime there might be like, I don’t know, some type of a method to assist with some film. However yeah, it’s positively a magical trade. That’s very inspiring. 

Emma:  Yeah, and really bizarre. And I additionally am all the time fascinated by like artwork tasks that take an enormous group. As a result of it’s very completely different from something that I normally do. I normally similar to write my very own guide, or make my very own portray or make somewhat necklace or no matter little passion I’ve, , of creativity. So to see like tasks that take like, big crews and writers and actors, and I’ll similar to so many various folks must be concerned. It’s type of a miracle that any of them get made in any respect. When you concentrate on it. It’s wild, truthfully. And it’s only a bizarre, bizarre, attention-grabbing trade.

Elsie:  Yeah, it’s so cool. It’s yeah. Ah, okay, so I assume guide report time. 

Emma:  Sure. We’re speaking concerning the useless romantics. Do you wish to give a synopsis? 

Elsie:  I can say the synopsis. 

Emma:  We’re most likely gonna have spoilers on this so ifyou haven’t learn it but. And I’ll say I feel this isn’t actually a thriller or something, however there are some belongings you most likely wouldn’t wish to know in case you’re going to learn this

Elsie:  When you’re planning to learn it then it’s time to skip forward to Nova’s joke, however I’ll say I like to recommend this upfront. Like this was like, a very good one. It’s like a really enjoyable tremendous quick web page turner. 

Emma:  Yeah, love story, Spooky love story. 

Elsie:  It’s on the spooky aspect. It’s not really spooky. It’s extra like faux. spooky, but it surely’s cute spooky. 

Emma:  Yeah, it’s cute spooky.  It’s like if a contemporary romance was like, however let’s make it somewhat Halloweeny. Just a bit bit. 

Elsie:  Yeah, I adore it. Okay, so the synopsis. So The Lifeless Romantics is a narrative a few ghost author named Florence. She’s ghost writing for a brilliant well-known romance creator. So she’s purported to be like, high shelf, like very well-known. And he or she’s written like a number of books. Like she’s on her fourth one, I feel out of like a contract. And so it’s gonna be her final one. So she’s like, going to her new editor to attempt to get an extension and he finally ends up being tremendous scorching. And also you’re like, okay, like, , when the new man enters a romance guide, you’re like,.

Emma:  You’re like, right here we go. Particularly in the event that they don’t like one another at first, you’re like, right here we go. 

Elsie:  Yep, it’s what it’s. So anyway, she goes to go to her household for her dad’s funeral shortly after that. And it seems that the brand new scorching editor is now a ghost who’s visiting her as a result of he’s useless. 

Emma:  And her and her dad, who’s now deceased had this factor the place they may each see ghosts. And he was a funeral director. And he or she doesn’t like this a part of herself, as a result of she noticed ghosts as a toddler, and solved a thriller. And everybody handled her like she’s a weirdo due to that. 

Elsie:  Yeah. So she hasn’t gotten again to her hometown to go to her household in 10 years, they’ve solely visited her and I used to be like, okay, what and anyway, so scorching man ghost retains visiting her. They usually’re attempting to plan her dad’s funeral and execute the funeral. And her dad’s not a ghost. It’s simply the editor man, Ben. They usually’re like getting fairly cozy. And yeah, Emma and I had been mainly like, we’re studying it on the identical time and we had been on a trip collectively and we had been like, how are they gonna do the ghost intercourse? 

Emma:  I used to be like, I assume there’s gonna be go ghost intercourse. I don’t know if it’s going to be satisfying. What’s going to occur right here? 

Elsie:  Yeah. So it’s like the proper storm since you’re like, these two characters have to be having intercourse quickly. However it’s inconceivable as a result of one is a ghost. And  you contact it and it goes via the physique. 

Emma:  On this world ghost, your hand would go to their physique.

Elsie:  Yeah. So anyway, I don’t know if we should always inform the ending however they work out a method. And it occurs. And I felt that it was like a fairly cute romantic guide and enjoyable. It was very fast. I feel I learn it in like two or three days. And it was joyful. It was enjoyable. It’s not spooky. I feel that in case you had been like somebody who doesn’t even like spooky stuff, you would like use this as your Halloween guide simply to love, yeah, have one and like form of prefer it’s not spooky in any respect. And yeah, like my feedback had been mainly like, I imply, it’s somewhat foolish, but it surely’s like enjoyable. And it’s meant to be that method.  I assumed it was actually good for love guide. I type of get uninterested in them as a result of they suppose they’re all the identical. It’s like a troublesome class for me. And this one positively had sufficient issues that made it completely different. However I’ll say that Emma ruined the twist for me. She was like, she predicted it. And he or she like predicted all the things precisely. After which it type of like ruined it.

Emma:  There’s one factor I didn’t predict. But additionally, I nearly by no means predict endings. I’m really actually unhealthy at it. So I really feel like this was one time that I did. And so I didn’t imply to destroy it as a result of normally I’m unsuitable. 

Elsie:  It’s okay.  I ought to have really recognized that was coming.  Anyway, I’ll give this guide 4 or 5 ghosty emojis, 4 level 5.

Emma:  Yeah,  I might give it like 4 level 5 too. I learn fairly a little bit of romance. And I really feel like it’s a powerful system as a result of it might probably really feel the identical on a regular basis in some methods. So I actually beloved what this creator did with it, the creativity of it fairly early on the Ben character dies. And so that you’re like, oh, that is taking a flip. And that’s enjoyable, it’s an attention-grabbing alternative. I additionally haven’t actually learn a contemporary romance that felt somewhat spooky, or was attempting to delve into some afterlife issues or this or that. And so I assumed that was actually enjoyable and fairly properly performed. I total actually actually favored it, actually loved it. When you like romance in any respect, I feel you’ll like this. It’s very enjoyable. So my different pals who like romance we’re all the time speaking about like, the place’s it at on the extent of intercourse? As a result of like a lot it’s like very gentle.

Elsie:  The spice a meter. 

Emma:  Yeah,the place’s it on the spice a meter. And this one to me is like, center to low. Not tons of spice. 

Elsie:  Let me put it this manner, I’m allowed to ship my 14 12 months outdated niece age acceptable books. And I might positively ship this one. Yeah, this is able to be effective. Like down there with like, The Fourth Wing. Prefer it this like somewhat little bit of intercourse, however probably not. 

Emma:  Yeah, it’s fairly delicate. So not too spicy. And a few folks choose that they don’t some folks don’t like an excessive amount of spice. Some persons are like, I want a loopy, spicy scene, one thing I’ve by no means even heard of earlier than or I’m bored. And I get that too. I perceive each views. So this one is extra on the sunshine. So in case you get pleasure from that I like all of it. I’m interested by the entire scale of spiciness.  So yeah, I assumed this was actually enjoyable. Nevertheless it’s very distinctive for a romance. So very definitely worth the learn in my view.

Elsie:  It’s very charming and cute. And I’m glad that it exists. I’m glad  we learn it. Yeah. And I type of really feel like we had been fortunate to search out it. 

Emma: I’m nearly 100% {that a} podcast listener despatched this since you all ship us guide suggestions pretty usually. And if I haven’t talked about this earlier than, I’m shopping for just about all of them off of thrift books, and so they’re sitting on my shelf. And a few I like greater than others I need to say, however this one I’m fairly positive it got here from a podcast listener and so they had been proper, as a result of I adore it. 

Elsie:  Yeah, it was cute. Okay, we adore it. All proper, let’s go to Nova’s phase. All proper, Nova, what do you could have for us this week?

Nova:  A joke.  Earlier than that, I simply wished to say thanks for purchasing my cookies. I hope you guys love them. I hope they’re yummy. My favourite is the journey falls. So thanks once more. And properly I simply wished to say, let’s get into some jokes. What’s a pavement favourite type of dessert? 

Elsie:  What’s it? 

Nova:  An Oreo concrete.

Elsie:  Yeah, that’s an excellent one. I feel it really works.  Alright, thanks a lot for listening. We hope this episode introduced you some pleasure. We’re so grateful for all of your love and help. And we’ll be again subsequent week with a consolation rewatch of the film, Hook. 

Emma:  Hook hook. The place’s the hook? 

Elsie:  Superb.